I work with all couples including I work with all couples including those in romantic relationships, siblings, adult child and parent, friends and business partners.”

 

Most of us desire to be our fullest selves within a relationship. When this seems impossible, we feel we have two equally poor options: either give up an essential part of ourselves and maintain the relationship or give up the relationship and be alone.  This leads to depression, resentment, isolation and conflict. While I believe that we make willing adjustments in relationships, we don't need to change who we essentially are.

 

Our society disapprove of couples arguing, and as a result, unresolved disagreements with our partner can cause pain and shame.  I believe it is unrealistic to expect couples not to have conflict.  There is good reason for conflict. It is indicative of something important happening to each person and worthy of respect. My experience has shown that greater intimacy, confidence and relief can result from exploring and understanding conflict. Understanding, tolerating and appreciating your differences strengthens and enlivens a relationship

 

We'll explore each partner’s communication style and how it impacts the relationship.  Often, neither party feels understood by the other or is feeling transgressed. I can help each person feel more understood and bring awareness to the deeper meaning behind what may seem like silly arguments. Couples work is an endeavor in understanding each other better through dialogue and exploration of family of origin dynamics, personal trauma and hopes and dreams. In therapy you will learn new things about yourself and your partner that can lead to greater mutual care, deeper intimacy and trust.