c 2018 Julie Blair Carter, MFT

Couples

Most of us strive to be our fullest selves within a relationship. When this seems impossible, we feel we have two equally poor options: either give up an essential part of ourselves or give up the relationship. While I believe that we make adjustments in relationships, I don't think we need to change who we essentially are.

 

Our society does not approve of couples fighting, and as a result, arguing with our partner can cause pain and even shame. I believe it is unrealistic to expect couples not to have conflict, and my experience has shown that intimacy, confidence and relief can result from exploring and understanding conflict. We'll explore each partner’s communication style and how it impacts the relationship. Often, neither party feels understood by the other or is feeling transgressed. I can help each person feel more understood and bring awareness to the deeper meaning behind what may seem like silly arguments.